And sometimes she makes me crazy! Ok, not sometimes. Always.
Now, don't get me wrong: she really is a great person. Her heart is in the right place and she does loads of chesed. But there is one flaw about her. It's all about her. If she did something for someone else, as nice and helpful as it was, she will martyr herself out to no end.
"I drove to three events this week! I didn't sleep but I like totally volunteered so much."
"I was the first one there so naturally I helped set up and was the last one there so obviously I cleaned the whole place, took out the trash, waxed the floors, and cleaned the toilets with my own toothbrush."
Ok, so I am exaggerating slightly. But only slightly.
Now, like I said, she is a nice person. But she is very me-centric. She has to be the best, spent the most, traveled the farthest, know more people, been there, done that at least a thousand times if not more.
And to be honest, it's starting to get to me.
So this post was half kvetch/half request for help.
How would you handle a person like this? How would you react to her endless stream of bragging and self martyrdom?
(To better illustrate this person, here is a video of a character she closely resembles in personality... I think you will get what I mean when you watch it)
Wednesday, December 26, 2012
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First of all, that video is hilarious!
ReplyDeleteIt's very frustrating to have to deal with someone like that. Sounds like she needs a little boost in her self-esteem and doing these HUGE projects and sounding better than everyone else makes her feel on top of the world. She needs acceptance, warmth and love-lots of it. It's hard to do that when someone sounds so full of herself all the time but maybe see how you can give her the confidence she needs-in small measures, slowly...
You're a good friend. :)
Kristen Wiig is hysterical. How she nailed that sing-song . . .
ReplyDeleteIn my case, I would not be able to tolerate such a person for very long. I applaud your patience.
Devorah hit it on the head. Sounds like a self-confidence issue.
ReplyDeleteI also would not be able to deal with such a person for very long either. The times that I've been forced to deal with such people I've resorted to minimizing my reaction so as to not encourage them to tell me about it.